🔺 The Story of Thiti 🔺

 

 1 – Thiti Asawapanumas, the Main Character

Thiti graduated with a medical degree from Mahidol University in Thailand. He then pursued further studies in hematology at Chulalongkorn University, specializing in bone marrow transplantation. Eventually, he returned to that same university as a faculty member in his specialty. He works at King Chulalongkorn Memorial Hospital and also practices at Bangkok Hospital.

Thiti has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). He is self-centered, craves admiration and praise, lacks empathy for others, and can manipulate people for his own benefit without regard for their feelings. His subtype leans toward Machiavellianism—he is skilled and subtle at crafting a false persona to deceive others. Those who aren’t close to him would never guess what he is truly like beneath the surface. In addition, Thiti also suffers from Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder.

During his time as an intern doctor in Lampang, Thailand, Thiti was in a relationship with a senior medical student from another university named Nut. Nut loved Thiti deeply, despite repeated warnings from those around him about Thiti’s behavior. Whenever Thiti was caught sleeping with someone else, he would cry until Nut softened and forgave him. Nut tried to understand Thiti and gave him the best love and warmth a partner could offer, hoping that Thiti would change.

However, because of Thiti’s sex addiction, he continued to cheat on Nut with other people. Eventually, Nut reached his breaking point and walked away.

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2 – Witchawat, the Current Partner

Although Thiti didn’t end up with Nut or Wut, he eventually met someone who could stay with him long-term. That person was Witchawat, a senior who had graduated from the same university in Sam Yan where Thiti completed his specialization.

Witchawat came from a well-off family that ran a long-established family business (gongsi). He held a bachelor’s degree in engineering and an MBA from the same university as Thiti, and he later earned a second master’s degree in management from a private university in Los Angeles, USA.

Being a narcissist, Thiti tended to date people with impressive profiles like Witchawat—primarily for social status rather than love. However, they shared common interests, such as marathon running and hiking. Moreover, Witchawat seemed able to accept Thiti’s flaws, including his habit of having multiple sexual partners.

Witchawat agreed to a semi–open relationship with Thiti, meaning they were each other’s primary partner but could sleep with others by mutual agreement. This arrangement allowed their relationship to last longer than any of Thiti’s previous ones.

Sometimes, they would post sweet couple photos on social media, pretending to be the perfect romantic pair—just to attract admiration and praise, which most people believed. But Thiti never truly changed. He continued talking to people on various social platforms, whether seeking casual hookups or secret affairs.

And then, Thiti met Noppadol.

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3 – Noppadol, the New Affair

Noppadol holds a master’s degree in management from the university in Salaya—Thiti’s alma mater—and later earned an MBA from a university in the south of the United Kingdom. He works for a global corporation and has the kind of impressive profile that appeals to Thiti.

However, Noppadol has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)—a condition marked by intense emotional responses, extreme mood swings, and a deep fear of abandonment. When he loves, he loves obsessively; when he’s sad, he falls into despair. In addition, Noppadol also suffers from Major Depressive Disorder (MDD).

◾️ People with BPD are often drawn to narcissists. Lacking self-confidence, they are attracted to charismatic and seemingly self-assured individuals who can make them feel whole. Narcissists, in turn, are experts at crafting ideal personas. They instinctively understand what traits someone is looking for and will adopt those characteristics to win affection and admiration.

This creates a powerful mutual attraction: the BPD individual offers intense devotion, while the narcissist thrives on admiration. But the connection rarely lasts. Narcissists lack empathy and often see others only as tools for personal gain, while those with BPD crave genuine care and fear being abandoned above all else. Emotionally, both personality types are impulsive and unstable, though they often hide this behind carefully curated public images.

◾️ One example of Thiti’s Machiavellian narcissism: he once told Noppadol that he didn’t drink alcohol. He even went so far as to write a dramatic Facebook post proclaiming his hatred for alcoholics. In that post, he recalled an incident from his time as an intern doctor in Lampang, where he witnessed a drunk patient behaving aggressively toward his own mother. Thiti claimed the event left a lasting impact, making him abhor drinking. Despite this, in reality, Thiti regularly drank to the point of passing out—sometimes even stripping naked on his bed while intoxicated. Furthermore, he often showed aggression toward his mother, both in person and over the phone—raising his voice and shouting.

What kind of person condemns others for behaviors they themselves exhibit, all while carefully curating a false image of virtue?

In truth, nearly everything Thiti posts on Facebook is calculated. It depends on who he’s courting at the time and what kind of persona he wants to project to make that person impressed. (When he was pursuing Supat—a character introduced in the next chapter—he acted like a laid-back, easygoing guy just to win him over.)

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4 – Beginnings with Noppadol

It all started when Thiti messaged Noppadol on Facebook. From there, their connection gradually deepened. In the beginning, everything seemed perfect—almost too perfect. It was the classic love bombing phase, the first stage in the narcissistic abuse cycle: idealization. Thiti showered Noppadol with affection and compliments, pretended to be exactly the kind of person Noppadol had always dreamed of, and did everything possible to make Noppadol fall hard—and feel safe.

Not long after, they met up for the first time—on Thiti’s birthday. Because both of them lived with family, they agreed to meet at a hotel. Noppadol made the reservation. When they finally met in person, there was barely any conversation before they ended up in bed. Everything happened incredibly fast, unlike the pace of most typical relationships.

After that night, they continued talking and seeing each other. Sometimes they met for meals. Sometimes they stayed the night together. Their usual meeting place became a room at one of Thailand’s most luxurious hotel chains, located in a famous mall (Right in the heart of the city). Noppadol, who had fallen deeply for Thiti, wanted to take care of him in every way. Each time they met, Noppadol paid for everything—hotel, meals, gifts. For Thiti’s birthday, Noppadol bought him presents and regularly stocked him up with personal items.

But there was one particular night that stood out. Noppadol visited Thiti during one of his late-night hospital shifts—at a prestigious private hospital in Bangkok. They stayed together in the on-call room, which had no lock on the door. And yet, they still had sex. On the hospital bed. On the couch. In the bathroom. Who could have guessed what kind of memories now linger in that sterile room?

To this day, Thiti still tells people nothing happened that night. Just some innocent fun. He says they were "just playing jacks."

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5 – When the Relationship Turns Sour

Once Thiti got what he wanted, he started talking to someone new. He became distant and gradually reduced his connection with Noppadol. Noppadol began to sense Thiti’s insincerity and changing behavior. Every time Noppadol tried to step away, he was manipulated back in. But when they were together, he was gaslit into feeling worthless (This is the second stage in the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle called Devaluation—emotional manipulation and gaslighting that confuse the prey and diminish their self-worth before the relationship is reduced and eventually Discarded. When the prey tries to leave, it enters the final stage, Hoovering—luring them back with Love bombing again. The cycle then repeats).

Noppadol became paranoid, afraid of being abandoned, experiencing mood swings. Already suffering from depression, he felt confused about what the future of their relationship would hold. The emotional turmoil worsened his depression severely until their relationship reached a breaking point. At that time, Noppadol had to be admitted to the hospital and couldn’t continue working, eventually resigning to focus on recovery. Meanwhile, Thiti was filled with anxiety, worrying if others would find out that he was the cause of Noppadol’s condition.

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6 – The Breaking Point

In the later period, Noppadol was emotionally abused by Thiti many times until his heart was shattered. His thoughts and feelings changed so drastically that he became a different person. He became severely ill, losing the strength to continue living. The situation escalated to what’s called the last straw. They had a heavy fight, resulting in Narcissistic Rage clashing with Borderline Rage. In the end, Noppadol played the Uno Reverse card 📱.

People around them found out what had happened. Many were shocked at the persona Thiti had created—pretending to be a kind, gentle medical professor who loved his partner. Many were also shocked by what Noppadol did. That incident left a deep wound on both of them. Noppadol had to be admitted to the hospital to save his life and receive ongoing treatment for depression. Meanwhile, Thiti had to leave his job at the private hospital where he worked and became paranoid about those around him. Both lived with these wounds for over a year.

⚠️ Some parts of the events have been omitted here due to their extremely violent and graphic content.

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7 – New Beginnings Abroad

After nearly a year, Noppadol’s condition began to improve, and he began considering a move to a country where mental health is taken seriously—where there’s deeper education, greater understanding, and efforts underway to legalize euthanasia for psychiatric patients. That country was Canada. He chose to pursue another master’s degree there.

Meanwhile, Thiti was lucky because the hospital where he worked received a fellowship grant for cell therapy. His professor sympathized with him and wanted to send him abroad to recover and wait for the situation in Thailand to settle down, so the professor gave Thiti the research grant. (It’s unfortunate for other capable and deserving colleagues who didn’t receive the grant because he took the fellowship to flee after the scandal.)

That fellowship was based at Roswell Park Comprehensive Cancer Center in Buffalo, United States—a city right next to the border province and country where Noppadol moved during his first year. (Even their decisions to move abroad happened around the same time and to places very close to each other.)

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8 – Supat, the New Prey

After Noppadol moved, he started a new life with little trouble adjusting, since he had lived abroad many times before. This was the opposite for Thiti, who was experiencing living far from home for a long time for the first time. Thiti felt lonely and suffered from depression while being alone in an unfamiliar environment.

Eventually, Thiti used his narcissism to find a new prey back in Thailand—someone who appeared empathetic and whom he could play the role that the prey liked—by reaching out to people on his social media. This time, Thiti was more cautious after what happened with Noppadol. He tried to avoid anyone who showed signs of depression.

In the end, Thiti found a new prey named Supat. Supat had tens of thousands of followers on Instagram, was an international studies scholarship student at a university in Tokyo, Japan, and had worked at two Big 4 consulting firms. Thiti seduced Supat and gained his trust (the Love Bombing Stage). Once Supat was smitten, Thiti invited him to move in together, providing support and encouragement and helping with paperwork. Eventually, Supat received a master’s scholarship in international trade at a university in the same city where Thiti lived. Supat decided to quit his job in Thailand and move in with Thiti.

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9 – The Story with Supat

Supat’s nightmare began after he actually moved in with Thiti. Thiti already had Witchawat, who was clearly Thiti’s boyfriend. Supat had no real status in Thiti’s life—not even as a friend—because Thiti tried to hide Supat’s presence from everyone. Thiti constantly warned Supat not to tell anyone, and forbade him from tagging locations in social media posts. But in the end, everyone in Thailand and America found out anyway. Confusing, right? Thiti tried so hard to keep it secret, but Witchawat went back to Thailand and broadcasted everything everywhere.

This was another cruel irony—Witchawat knew Thiti was using Supat and living with him but was okay with it (while secretly gossiping about Supat behind his back). During the time they lived together, Supat was emotionally abused by Thiti many times (the Devaluation Stage). Thiti took advantage of Supat in every way because Supat was deeply infatuated with him. Supat bought a car, and Thiti used it. Supat had to clean the house, wash clothes, cook for him, shop for their home, drive Thiti around on trips, to visit the Grand Canyon, run marathons, and go skiing together. Many times, Supat paid for meals or hotel stays (sounds familiar—haven’t we heard of such situations before?).

In the end, Supat was just another person Thiti deceived and exploited for his own benefit (this is a hallmark of narcissists—they lack empathy and use others for their own gain). But when Supat started to grow stronger emotionally or realized he wouldn’t tolerate Thiti anymore, Thiti would come back and act nice again, manipulating Supat to soften and accept him once more (the Hoovering Stage, like Thiti did with Noppadol). 

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10 – Scorekeeping and Building a Harem in North America

Even though Thiti was living with Supat, his sex addiction still persisted. He began chatting and connecting with Thai people in cities across the United States and Canada. Supat moving in with Thiti was like breathing new life into him—it rekindled Thiti’s energy and gave him the freedom to indulge his desires once more. Now far away from Witchawat, his boyfriend in Thailand, he was free to sleep with anyone he wanted. He had a car to use, Supat to help with the rent, and someone to manage everything at home. Thiti didn’t even want to return to Thailand.

Supat wasn’t just emotionally exploited and hurt by Thiti—he was also harassed by Thiti’s other sexual partners, who tracked them down after learning they were living together. Thiti kept using the same tactics: luring new prey by gaining their trust in exchange for sex. Once he got what he wanted, he would pull away and look for his next target. Still, some were kept around as friends with benefits, and Thiti was involved with multiple people at once.

At one point, Thiti brought over another prey named Mark—a younger dental school graduate from the same university in Samyan where Thiti had done his specialization. Mark came to study in the same state as Thiti and Supat, living in a nearby city on the same scholarship as Supat. Thiti invited Mark to spend the night at their home—while Supat was still there. You can imagine what may have happened between the three of them that night.

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11 – Leaving Family Behind for a Man

There was one time when Thiti’s mother and aunt flew in from Thailand to visit. They had planned a trip to Washington, D.C., with Supat driving them there. But on that very day, Thiti had scheduled a hookup with another man—his new target named Setthawut.

Setthawut had graduated from the dental school at the same university in Thailand as Thiti and Noppadol, and was now pursuing a doctorate in prosthodontics at a prestigious private university in Boston that shares its name with the city. He also enjoyed marathon running, just like Thiti. But here’s the thing—Setthawut already had a girlfriend.

(Thiti was especially drawn to affairs and going after people who were already taken. He saw it as a challenge, and if successful, it made him feel like he had “accomplished” something.)

Thiti made plans to go on a marathon run with Setthawut and used that as a pretext to stay the night, hoping for a full-blown sexual encounter. But Setthawut wasn’t interested—no matter how hard Thiti tried, he wouldn’t give in.

Thiti left his mother and aunt to Supat to take care of and show around D.C., while he went off to sleep with another man. When things didn’t go his way, he returned home disappointed—and took it out on Supat and even his own mother.

During their time together, Thiti pressured Setthawut so aggressively that Setthawut became extremely uncomfortable and vented about it to his friends. And Setthawut wasn’t the only one—there was also Sutthikorn, the owner of a Thai restaurant in New York. After chatting for a bit, Sutthikorn tried to excuse himself by saying he needed to go shopping alone, but Thiti kept following him around, persistently messaging him on LINE, begging him to get a hotel room so they could “have sex.”

(Want to see that LINE chat?)

At this point, Thiti was willing to do nearly anything to sleep with his chosen targets—but often, it didn’t work out the way he hoped.

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12 – Mario: The New Partner in New York

Finally, Thiti found a compatible partner in New York — Mario, nicknamed the “Thai Immigration of New York,” known for “stamping” anyone who comes into the city. Thiti was one of those people.

Mario already had a partner he lived with, but Thiti still slept with him. What kind of wild night the three of them had next (again) is something you can imagine.

Both Thiti and Mario were polygamous and skilled at finding new sex partners, so Thiti liked Mario more than anyone else. He even allowed Mario to take photos with him, something he normally wouldn’t do with other partners for fear of secrets being revealed. Thiti bought Mario gifts for his birthday and pampered him more than any other partner.

If it weren’t for having to return to Thailand to fulfill work commitments, Thiti might have left Witchawat and been with Mario instead (or maybe he would have dated both at the same time, since Witchawat already put up with everything from him).

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13 – Ending Things with Supat

Every time Supat was not in the apartment (whether he returned to Thailand or went to another city), Thiti would bring other men to sleep over. Supat pretended not to know or see anything all along, but his patience eventually reached its limit. Thiti messaged and arranged to sleep with another man even though Supat was still right beside him. They argued, and Supat decided not to renew the lease on the apartment they had been sharing. He then sought help from other Thai people in the city.

In the end, Thiti is only with Witchawat to create the image of a sweet couple for others to admire and to justify himself by claiming that if he secretly dated or slept with others, it was those people’s fault because Thiti had made it clear from the start that he already had a boyfriend. But if you think about it carefully, what decent person with a partner would constantly try to secretly date or sleep with others? All the characters in this story were actually the ones being pursued by Thiti. Thiti was already with Witchawat in Thailand, but still brought Supat to live with him, while also talking to and flirting with many other Thai people all across North America (there are many more characters yet to come).

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