🔺 The Story of Thiti (Epilogue) 🔺

 

If you are currently dealing with someone like Thiti and feeling hurt or trapped, try to understand NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and Narcissistic Relationships. This will help you understand why this character behaves the way he does. Most preys blame themselves for what went wrong, while the narcissist never blames themselves. They think, “It’s your fault for falling for me. If you did something good for me, it was because you gave it with affection. If you get depressed or lose your mind, it’s because you are weak.” (Look at examples like Noppadol or Supat.)

You must understand that he will never change. No matter how much more love you try to give, he will still move on to someone new anyway (see examples like Nut, Wut, and Witchawat). In the end, society will see you as the one at fault because Thiti already has a partner, and outsiders will never understand why you can’t walk away, or why you love and obsess so much. (Whoever have not been in a Narcissistic Relationship, will never understand.)

Thiti is skilled at twisting the truth and convincing those around him. So no matter how much chaos he causes or how many lives he destroys, there will always be people who believe and support him.

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Posts couple photos publicly to earn praise as the perfect couple, but when the partner is away, tricks people all over. When talking on the phone with Witchawat, speaks in a flat tone like giving a lecture in class, very different from when talking to the many flings Thiti hopes to sleep with — sweet enough that no one else would have imagined. The most pitiful is Thiti’s mother, who always gets yelled at or snapped at when talking to her (want to hear the voice records?).

Among all the people Thiti has been with, Witchawat seems to be the best fit because he already knows about Thiti’s chaotic behavior but still accepts him. Another reason they have lasted so long is that Thiti and Witchawat don’t spend as much time together as Thiti does with the other “preys.” Thiti doesn’t show his other side to Witchawat, and when they travel, all expenses are split down to the last penny — unlike how Thiti exploits the others for benefits (That was Supat’s sweater).

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Noppadol both loves and adores Thiti like never before and wants to take care of him the best way possible. Every time they stay in Centara hotel together, he upgrades to the most expensive room, orders food and pays for everything, buys gifts and personal items — perfumes, board games, underwear, and other essentials. Noppadol even tries to learn the board games Thiti likes to be a companion when Thiti feels lonely during night shifts. He massages Thiti every time he’s stressed, trying to make him as happy as possible.

But not long after, Thiti started revealing his true self. From a sweet, kind person, he turned dominant, while Noppadol naturally became submissive. Almost every time they’re together, Thiti lashes out at Noppadol a lot, so Noppadol begged him to be a bit gentler and kinder. Still, Noppadol accepts Thiti no matter how much he gets snapped at.

For someone with borderline personality disorder, tolerating such intense emotions is truly impressive. Noppadol thinks that as long as they have each other, he will endure everything from Thiti. But quoting Nut’s words, “Mew is always Mew. Mew will never change”. In the end, Thiti will try to find someone new and discard Noppadol anyway.

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There is a psychological explanation for why narcissists treat people very close to them—like family members or their partners—so badly. It’s because narcissists constantly create a persona of themselves as wonderful people to deceive those around them, which takes quite a bit of energy. When they are with people they are very close to and feel safe with—like a safe zone—they want to be their true selves.

When Thiti is with family members, such as his mother (since the bond between mother and child can never be broken), or with partners like Noppadol or Supat (who endure whatever emotional abuse Thiti throws at them and still stay), Thiti vents his emotions fully.

Family members or partners of a narcissist become like punching bags or doormats, absorbing everything in that emotional arena.

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Thiti has many ways to hoover and manipulate. If he sees the other person starting to go quiet or change, he will reach out or ask what’s wrong—not because he cares, but because he wants to bring them back under his control (narcissistic supply). Thiti learned from Noppadol what the weaknesses are of his preys who are in love with him. When Thiti is upset or in a bad mood, Noppadol will come and massage his head and body while he’s lying down—partly to help Thiti relax and feel better, and partly to fulfill the feeling of caring for someone he loves.

When Thiti notices Supat starting to become distant or stubborn, he asks Supat to massage him. This fulfills Supat’s need to care for someone he loves, making Supat fall back into the same loop again.

Even after breaking up, Thiti keeps stalking and hoovering those he’s been with—no matter if blocked or disappeared, he’ll find them. For example, Thiti still stalks Noppadol’s social media constantly and even went back to talk to Nut (when there was a fight with Noppadol, Thiti consulted Nut about it).

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His reputation is confirmed by senior doctors in Lampang, and he’s well known all over Bangkok, Lampang, Buffalo, Rochester, New York, Boston, and Toronto...

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There’s a printed couple photo pinned above the bed, to show Witchawat that they still love and miss each other—but on that same bed, how many men have slept with Thiti, he doesn’t know.